Everyone experiences anxiety at some time, or lacks confidence in certain situations. These were the reactions which kept us safe in primitive times and they are perfectly natural, but, when either of these feelings become a regular or constant occurrence life can become incredibly limiting and unpleasant. That is far from natural!
Let’s look at anxiety first:
Anxiety symptoms include everything from panic attacks to headaches, neck tension, shortness of breath, palpitations, poor sleep, upset stomach, nausea, dizziness and an ability to relax. These are just a few. For some people the anxiety happens in specific situations, for others it can be in any situation, it can come out of nowhere and feel completely irrational. Some people live with anxiety throughout their whole lives, for others it can be triggered by an event or change in their life.
Many of my clients come to me when they have decided enough is enough. When they are no longer prepared to have their life restricted by anxiety and want to be free of the feelings of anguish. Many have tried medication which masks the symptoms but does not treat the underlying cause. Many have tried other therapies which give relief for a short time only to find the anxiety returns.
If you are in a similar situation, don’t despair. Modern neuroscience has proved that if we want to tackle the underlying beliefs which are causing the anxiety our minds will respond really well.
What about confidence?
When we come onto the planet as a baby we are full of confidence. We naturally expect everyone to adore us, everything to be provided and everything to happen just as we want it to. As we go through life we experience knockbacks and criticism, maybe from something our parents did, maybe something a harsh teacher said. Some people bounce back from these with ease but for many these often small, innocuous events and comments start to erode out natural confidence. Add to this our natural tendency to focus more on the negative than the positive (another primitive survival tactic) and we soon lack confidence, self esteem and as a result start to self sabotage many aspects of our lives.
This lack of confidence and self esteem can appear in many areas of life. This can be around body image; relationships with friends; in our jobs; as business women; in relationships with our partners or our attempts to develop relationships; when speaking up in public or to voice our opinion; and when standing up for ourselves and what is important to us. It can be crippling and often leads us to sabotage ourselves when we see a glimmer of success.
If you are held back by any of these aspects then the most important thing to do is to understand why your mind does not want you to have success and happiness. Our minds love to be right and do what they think we want them to so if you have a subconscious belief that you are no good at speaking in public, or you don’t deserve a happy relationship and friends then your mind will do everything in its power to stop those things happening and to reinforce those beliefs.
Once you know what those beliefs are, which we can easily uncover in RTT, you will be free to live the life you deserve without the shackles of the past.